Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Pump, pump… pump it up


I’m just going to make a quick update from the trenches. It’s my third week back to work and it hasn’t been as hard as I thought it would be. When I had Scarlett, I was more than ready to go back to work. In fact, it was then that I decided that a stay-at-home mom was not in my nature. When I was younger, it’s what I wanted to be when I grew up. (That was also when I wanted six children!!) It took me a while to realize that I probably wanted to go back to work so badly because I didn’t have a good experience. I had a moderate case of post-partum depression that was expounded by a negative nursing experience and being home bound.
This maternity leave couldn’t have been more different. I had baby blues, not post-partum depression. I got out of house quite a bit thanks to the unseasonably nice weather. I have a very supportive network of friends that made sure that I didn’t fall into any slump of any kind. It was a little harder this time to accept that my two months of leave were over.

That being said, I wasn’t sad. Sullivan was going to best place possible next to being at home – his grandma’s. I returned to work knowing that I could call at any time and Sullivan would have his every whim catered to!
Already, I’ve fed Sullivan more breast milk than Scarlett ever got, and not just because he eats three times as much! I’ve last about three times longer than I did the first time around. Pumping at work is definitely easier than pumping at home. I’ve got a schedule that I can stick to and no interruptions from kids, babies, chores, etc. Despite the consistency of schedule, my supply is slowly decreasing. I’m only able to pump enough for Sully to have one full bottle a day. I expected the decrease since I didn’t have a large supply with Scarlett either, but I’m definitely trying to keep it up by pumping often and drinking tons of water. I don’t think I want to go the Fenugreek route because I’d have to take 12 pills or more a day. I think I’ll just pump as long as I have something to give and not feel bad about it. I’m actually pretty proud of myself.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Two months in

After reading Ben's guest post, I really feel like I should count my blessings. I am blessed to have had Scarlett, after a very long fertile dry spell. I'm blessed to have 6 long years with her being the focus of my life. I'm blessed to have gotten pregnant again, following another fertility lapse. I'm blessed to have known my condition ahead of time so that I didn't have to go through labor with a breech baby who was stuck under my ribs. I'm lucky to have given birth to a very healthy baby boy, in spite of a tough C-Section. Lastly, I'm blessed to have so much support. Ben has been an amazing support to me and a fabulous dad and my friends and family have been great. I love my life!


Monday, May 7, 2012

Guest post from Ben

Hey all! I asked Ben to write an entry detailing the birth morning, since I was a little less than lucid. Enjoy!

We checked in at St. E’s @ 7:30 a.m. and went through the standard 30 minute “Let’s make sure these schmucks can pay us” admission process. After clearing our insurance info, we were lead down to our pre-op room, which is usually reserved for deliveries. A middle-aged nurse stepped in and got the ball rolling with oral NSAIDs, IV and some stylish OR clothes. Casey was rocking the dignified backless gown and the nurse gave me some very large scrubs. Before I could don my scrubs, though, the nurse rather tersely pointed to me and said, “You go down the hall and get some breakfast.” Not being much of a breakfast person, I replied that I was doing just fine. Our nurse quite abruptly stated, “I already have one patient to care for. I don’t need two. Now go eat. I can’t have you passing out in there.” Sheepishly, I replied, “Yes ma’am,” ducked behind the curtain and down the hall for some cereal. Once the IV was administered, fetal monitors attached and basic admissions hurdles were cleared, family started to arrive. Timmy arrived with Scarlett in tow from the house, as well as Heather, Casey’s mom and sister and my mom and brother.

 
Soon after, a hulking gent in scrubs stepped in and introduced himself as the anesthesiologist. After reviewing the spinal procedure, he got up to head to the OR and bonked his head on the overhead light. I made the observation that the anesthesiologist looked as though he should be in the business of breaking kneecaps or chasing quarterbacks.

Finally, the time arrived to head to the operating room for the C-section. The nurses lead Casey, covered in a blanket, and I through the halls towards the room. As per usual, the OR was fluorescently over-lit, bustling with medical professionals counting sharp objects and fiddling with electronic devices and warmed to a comfortable 29 degrees. Casey had a seat on the operating table with her backless gown, poofy hat and hospital-issued socks. She had been excited to wear her shamrock Sock-It-To-Me socks for the big day, but our cranky admissions nurse stated that they might get blood-stained. Really?!

When Lou Ferrigno, I mean, the anesthesiologist, entered the OR, we knew it was time for the ever-so-pleasant spinal procedure. At this point, Ben was busy making sure he wasn’t in the way for the twentieth time. The pain was evident as Casey braced and then grimaced as the heavy gauge needle was inserted into her spinal column at the L2 level. The line was secured and she was eased onto her back by the nurses and anesthesiologist, since her legs were already buzzing. Dr. Feelgood sat at a stool by Casey’s head to adjust the flow of drugs as her OB Dr. Fiala and the assistant Dr. Bowers walked into the OR fully scrubbed-in and clad in surgical pastels.

Dr. Fiala made small talk sprinkled with words of encouragement while nurses prepped and draped Casey’s belly. The orange of the iodine was vaguely noticeable as I spewed my usual wisecracks that accompany my high level of nervousness. One of the nurses had noticed my black shamrock tattoo through my scrubs and mentioned that she had a son who played football at Notre Dame. No kidding. She then asked me if I was okay and if I needed to sit down. Actually, I voiced my interest in watching the procedure, just like when Scarlett was born via C-Section. Before we knew it, Dr. Fiala said, “Here we go.” Casey was numb from the belly button down and her vision hindered due to the all-encompassing curtain drape. Her left arm, which still held the IV was strapped down to a board. We could smell the burning flesh from the electro-cautery and could hear the chatter of the doctors and nurses as they made their cuts through the existing scar. Although Casey was numb to the cuts, the doctor warned her that she’d be able to feel the pressure in her abdomen. I kept watch over the drape and offered updates on the procedure, although due to the IV pain meds, confusion and muted pain, Casey didn’t really want to hear them. Once the incisions were completed, the doctors braced themselves on either side of the operating table and pulled with both hands in opposite directions to spread out the musculature. This Casey felt. I heard her gasp and saw the tears well up, which caused the anesthesiologist to ask her if everything was okay. She replied through her tears that she could feel a great deal of what was being done. When asked what she would rate her pain on a scale of 0-10 she bravely said 8, when it was clear to me that she was in quite a deal more. The anesthesiologist administered another push of drugs while I did my best to translate what was happening.
 
The amniotic sac was lanced and immediately a gush of liquid spilled out. Based on the look on Casey’s face, the pain hadn’t subsided, even as the second spinal took hold. Dr. Fiala checked in with the anesthesiologist about pain levels and he indicated that he administered all that he could.  Dr. Fiala informed the whole team that the baby was indeed breech, but that his head was lodged under Casey’s ribs on the left side, which was beyond the reach of her spinal. The anesthesiologist stated that he couldn’t administer a spinal at a higher level due to issues of diaphragm and lung functioning.  I asked if there were any other options and he stated that the only thing that he could do would be to put Casey completely out. Dr. Fiala informed everyone that they were going to go for it and told Casey to hang in there. Casey held my hand tight and prepared for the worst. The incision was pulled up near her sternum as Dr. Fiala attempted to dislodge the baby’s head. At this point, the procedure was essentially being conducted without anesthesia. Several pairs of hands pulled and prodded for something that seemed to be in Casey’s throat via her incision just below her belly button.
 
Suddenly, I saw a foot and leg. And then another. Dr. Fiala gave a few tugs and with a scoop of a gloved hand, the baby’s head emerged from what seemed like a six-foot wide hole. The baby let out that newborn shriek and we knew that everything would be okay. Casey got her first look at the baby as the nurses brought him around the curtain prior to his primary check. The nurses cleaned him up, but he stopped crying and just lied there, blue and still. The nurses rubbed his back and head and he gasped and cried but returned to lying still. A mask the size of an egg was placed on the little fellow with 100% Oxygen and he turned from blue to beet red in literally two seconds. I also started breathing at this point, turning from green back to my ruddy self. After my tenth “Is that normal?” the nurses told me to relax and that everything was fine. I couldn’t bring myself to tell this part of the process to Casey until we were home and she was well on her way to recovery. I didn’t think she could handle that thought.

While the baby was getting weighed, measured and freed of excessive umbilical cord, Casey was starting the long trek that is a post-op course. I glanced to the floor next to the operating table and noticed the suction receptacle about ¼ full and the surrounding floor and occasional pant-leg or sleeve spattered with blood. Since the placenta was also lodged under Casey’s ribs, the removal procedure was also conducted with little more than 800 mg of Ibuprofen between pain receptors and the cold surgical tools. In order to reach the placenta, a good number of her visceral organs had to be pulled laterally and forced toward the incision, making her look as though she had taken a cannon ball at short range. She once again bit her lip, grasped the curtain rods that held the drape and took the pain with as much tolerance as she could muster.

Just as the doctor was depositing her organs back into place and preparing to close her incision, I approached with our little man. The anesthesiologist adjusted several cords and hoses to make room as I placed our baby next to her on the operating table. She looked at me and said, “What do you think… Sullivan?” I agreed. “Sullivan Patrick Coleman.” Closure was completed, dressings applied and compression girdle fitted. I placed Sully in the bassinet cart and followed the mobile operating table to the post-operative care/neo-natal intake room. Four nurses spent what felt like an hour conducting numerous tests, taking readings, administering drugs and discussing paperwork. At this point Casey continued on the pain train as the nurses palpated her stomach and incision site to check for uterine hardening.

Originally, Casey was supposed to be moved straight to Ibuprofen and Percocet for her pain management, but the nursing staff alerted the doctor that Morphine was a better option for her, considering the amount of pain she was still in. The analgesic of last resort, the drug of “hold on Private, you took a musket ball to the shin. We have to amputate.” It took Morphine, of all things, to bring the pain down to a more comfortable 6 out of 10.

While Casey was being harangued, prodded and moved to the postpartum room, I was denied permission to wheel Sully out to the waiting room to see the family for the third time. I informed the nurses that if we didn’t come out soon, the family would roll in a keg and start a campfire. At last the nurses finished post-op requirements and let me push Sully out to meet the family.

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Welcome Sullivan Patrick Coleman!


On Monday, March 19th, we welcomed Sullivan Patrick to the world via C-Section at 9:19 a.m. At 8 pounds and 8 ounces, he wasn't quite as big as we imagined he would be. The C-Section was a tough one (even more than normal C-Sections should be), but I'll write more about that in a later post. In fact, I might let Ben handle that one, since he was the one that witnessed everything in a really lucid state.

Since we've come home, it's been a blur of sleeping, pumping, feeding, diapering and staring absentmindedly at the television. After two days in the hospital, I decided that nursing just wasn't for me. The physical issues that made it problematic were only part of the problem. I think between the hormones, poor latching, insecurity and a host of other things - it just seemed like a better idea to pump my milk. Although that puts me into a constant cycle of feeding and pumping, it's rewarding to me to see how much milk goes into Sullivan and to be able to rely on others, like Ben, to help. I'm not sure how long I'll last and if I'll ever get ahead enough on my milk supply to stop giving about one formula bottle a day, but I feel confident in my decision. I really feel it was the right decision for me and for Sully too.

Getting back onto Lexapro has been a plus, although I still have some crazy post-partum hormones and some baby blues. At least I know it's not serious and I feel like I have a little control over them. It's amazing what small, ridiculous things make me cry!

Lastly, Scarlett has been such an amazing helper! Worries about how she'll adjust just frittered away. Yes, she has been angling for a little more attention and has been a little hyper-active, but she's also incredibly proud of her little brother and gives him loads of kisses. She wants to carry him everywhere, be involved in every diaper change and even helps me set up my pumping gear whenever I'm ready. The first few days I was home from the hospital she cried when she had to leave for school because she was going to miss Sully!

Well, forgive the rambling and any grammar issues - I'm still in a bit of a Percocet haze. I just wanted to give a quick update. I hope to have another soon.

Monday, March 12, 2012

One Week!

Baby Bacon has exactly one week of "baking" to do. There were definitely times that I didn't think I'd get this far along. There were also times that I didn't feel like I could make it this far. However, as I approach the final week, I'm feeling pretty good. I've only had one instance of Braxton Hicks contractions and no other signs of labor, so I'm considering myself lucky. I do have concerns, as every soon-to-be mom does. Some may result from nesting, some from my extremely obsessive personality. Whatever the cause, I'm thinking about them a lot.

1. Getting everything done; both at work and at home. I've got one last big project to tackle at work, which is looming over my head. I've also been trying desperately to keep up with everything coming in - which will make it easier for my co-workers after I've gone. It's a losing battle and I know it, but it doesn't lessen my struggle.

At home, it's less of a big deal, but there are things we just need to get done. I need to clean for an upcoming St Patrick's Day party and houseguests. We also need to install our car seats and other sensible things. I've got a list and I'm whittling it down, but it feels like so much to do.

2. I worry a lot about going into labor before our C-Section date. I know if it happens, it happens and we'll deal with it. The planner in me is going crazy, though, because everything I have planned hinges on Baby coming the day that he's supposed to. Interestingly enough, I worry more about the planning aspect than I do about the physical aspect. My doctor has stressed how important it is to call if I experience any labor symptoms and what to say in the hospital to get the quickest treatment: "I have a bicornate uterus and my baby has always been breach." That apparently makes this happen pretty quickly. Despite that, I seem to be more concerned about displacing party guests and being adequately prepared.

3. Scarlett's place in this post-baby life does make me worry. I'm nervous about keeping her on schedule with school and all of her activities. But I also need to balance that with baby bonding, because I want to her to be as involved as possible. Trying to prevent melt-downs with special activities, but trying to keep her grounded will be difficult. I want to approach this situation as carefully and thoughtfully as possible. I'm willing to accept any suggestions! A From Bacon to Scarlett gift has already been purchased, wrapped and packed and Ben knows how important it will be for her to be the first person who gets to hold the baby.

4. Nursing vs. pumping. This issue has weighed on my mind since Scarlett was born. With Scarlett I nursed for a little bit, pumped for a little bit and then gave up and formula fed. Nursing contributed to a hefty case of baby blues because it didn't go well for me. Due to physical problems, it just wasn't very feasible. I didn't feel guilty when I stopped, after all Scarlett turned out just fine, but trying to figure out how to approach the situation with the new one has caused me a little stress.

I'm honestly not too keen on nursing. I want Bacon to have the benefits of it, which is why I'm willing to try nursing for a little while and pumping for a long while. My hope is that I can build up a nice supply of milk by pumping so that the little one can have the benefits of the breastmilk and I won't have any of the stress. We'll see. My experience with some people is that "breast is best" and that is the bottom line. I don't disagree, but I want to be open minded. I hope that everyone else will be too.

Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Room with a view


Our very talented friend Heather finished painting the walls of Bacon's nursery last week. We love the way it turned out!